Divorce Mediation is the most common dispute resolution option in Connecticut Courts. However, it is often misunderstood. Mediation allows spouse to reach a fair settlement with the help of a third, neutral party called a mediator. Mediators, who should be an attorney/mediator practicing Family Law or with experienced in Connecticut divorce and Connecticut family law issues such as child custody, property division in Connecticut, child support law, statutes and guidelines, can helpspouse identify and resolve issues, draft legal documents which will need to be accepted by a Judge in one of the Connecticut Courts. In most Connecticut Courts, such as Hartford Family Court, Waterbury, Litchfield, New Haven, Tolland Court, etc, the mediator must attend the final uncontested divorce hearing with the spouses.
The most important thing to understand is that mediators cannot give either of you legal advice, however, can provide legal information, statutes, case law and legal opinions. In Connecticut, the mediator’s role is to help you, and your spouse communicates and reach agreements, prepared the Financial Affidavits, Child Support Guidelines if you have minor children, Marital Property Division, Alimony scenarios if your situation calls for Alimony and write and draft your Settlement Agreement.
Mediation is private and confidential. Mediation is the ONLY process that allows you and your spouse to make your own informed, well-educated legal, financial and parenting decisions, and far less expensive than filing a lawsuit through the adversarial process. You can reach your own agreement that is more customized than the one you might receive from a Judge or drafted by adversarial attorneys. Mediation is not for everyone. A well trained, the experienced mediator can guide most couples through a Connecticut divorce. Keep in mind that mediation is a reasonable process for reasonable people. Emotional control, financial control, and abuse, physical and emotional abuse do not belong in mediation, rather in the adversarial Connecticut Court System.