If you are seeking a divorce, you may be feeling a sense of urgency. You might be anxious about saving money, or worried about the impact a drawn-out divorce proceeding will have on you, your job, your living arrangements, and especially the emotional wellbeing of your children.
It’s enough to make you consider getting divorced as quickly as possible. While that is understandable, don’t let your feelings about divorce sway your decision making. Divorce is a time for careful action: what you do now will impact you and your family for years to come.
For example, don’t file for divorce using online forms. Many states offer a DIY divorce process, but it can backfire. Because every situation is different, there is no one-size-fits-all form. When you hire a divorce attorney in Connecticut, you get peace of mind and a settlement that is customized to meet your unique circumstances.
Here are 6 more reasons why you should hire a divorce attorney in Connecticut.
1. Don’t share divorce attorneys
When getting a divorce, don’t agree to share the same attorney with your spouse. On the surface, this sounds like a good idea, especially if you are trying to have an amicable, or friendly, divorce. Here’s what you should is that it is unethical—a conflict of interests—for one attorney to represent both parties. For another, divorce can get ugly. Let the attorneys litigate, negotiate, mediate your divorce on your behalf. This way you, your spouse, and your children, have the emotional space to heal. Because of this conflict of interest, one attorney cannot necessarily get the most advantageous settlement for their client.
2. Reduce stress.
There is a tremendous amount of legal footwork when it comes to getting a divorce. You have enough stress without wrangling over finances and other issues such as child support, visitation, spousal support or anything else that might arise. Hiring a divorce attorney in Connecticut puts an expert in charge of the process.
3. Protect your financial assets.
When it comes to getting a divorce, deciding who owns what or who gets what, can quickly devolve into a contentious discussion. The disposition of your house or vacation home, the business you started together (or separately), retirement accounts, even the pictures on the wall, are part of the settlement process.
Here’s what you need to understand: Connecticut is an equitable distribution state, but with a twist. In Connecticut, all property is considered marital property. It does not matter how it is titled, when it was acquired, or whether it was received as a gift or inheritance. This distinction makes Connecticut an “all-property” state: when it comes time to split the assets, everything the couple owns is fair game. You need to hire a Connecticut divorce attorney to legally establish what is yours to keep.
4. Enforce a prenuptial (or postnuptial) agreement.
During the best of times, a prenuptial agreement is a financial planning tool. If you are getting a divorce, then the prenuptial agreement becomes key to dissolving your marriage. Hire a Connecticut divorce attorney to make sure the prenuptial agreement is properly enacted.
5. Provide for your children.
This includes everything from determining who has custody, setting a visitation schedule, child support (which can include college education) and ensuring health insurance and other necessary benefits are provided (in whole or in part) by the non-custodial parent. Unfortunately, nothing inflames the divorce proceedings more than fighting over children. Hire a divorce attorney or mediation attorney so that you have a neutral third party overseeing this discussion.
6. Provide for yourself.
Depending on the circumstances surrounding your marriage, you may be entitled to alimony, spousal support, social security, health insurance, retirement savings and other assets. Just because your marriage is ending in divorce does not mean you deserve to be punished or impoverished. Hire a divorce attorney to determine what you are entitled to receive.
A divorce attorney is an expert in negotiating such issues as property division, spousal support and child custody. At CT Mediation Center, we have over 40 years of combined experience in divorce litigation or divorce mediation. Please give us a call at (860)986-1141.