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We are pleased to welcome you to our practice and we invite you to explore our website and resources.Law Offices of Angela I. Green, LLC is a divorce and family law practice designed for spouses who are committed to approaching the end of a marriage with civility, grace, integrity and reason.
No matter what family law issues you are currently dealing with we are dedicated to helping you during a time that we know can be extrememly difficult. Our practice is devoted exclusively to the practice of family law. We provide our clients with legal solutions that are tailored to meet your specific needs
We dedicate our efforts in finding alternatives to divorce litigation to the extent possible and to avoid court intervention in resolving family conflict through alternative dispute resolution options whenever possible.
We help divorcing spouses reach constructive divorce settlement agreements. We strive to resolve your conflict stemming from divorce and focus on creating comprehensive parenting agreements and settlement agreements.
In addition to traditional divorce we offer Divorce Mediation, Divorce Co-Mediation (gender neutral team approach), and Collaborative Divorce.
Please feel free to call us at (860) 986-1141 and discuss all the divorce options available.
When asked about the methods of getting a divorce, most prospective clients think that there are only two ways: Mediation and Litigation. Here is a short summary of some of the methods or processes to ending a marriage. Please explore our website for further information about your options:
1. Divorcing Pro Se. Pro se means “for oneself” in Latin. Spouses proceed, by themselves, without counsel, using court forms or internet forms to file the necessary paperwork. Usually motivated by lack of funds to hire attorneys, it can work adequately for very simple cases — short marriages, where there are no (or few) assets and no children. In more involved or complex cases, it may be quite dangerous for the spouses to file for a divorce without an attorney. Things can be missed – and drastically so. Power imbalances and unfairness can run rampant. Doing your own divorce, may be unwise.
2. Mediation. A neutral mediator helps the spouses come to an agreement regarding all the issues stemming from the divorce. The divorce mediator should be well-versed in divorce and family law. Mediators cannot advocate for either spouse, however, a good mediator provides legal information to the spouses and creates various options. The divorce mediator helps the couple with the divorce process from the initial filing of legal documents to the final court hearing and also with any post-divorce modifications. Pros: You and your spouse remain in control of your divorce and separation. You and your spouse co-write your divorce agreement. Least expensive way to divorce and the most common form of alternative dispute resolution. Cons: Not all couples can communicate, even with a mediator. May not work if financial, emotional or psychological abuse exists. An experienced, trained divorce mediator can ascertain if your divorce or separation is suitable for mediation or not. CO- MEDIATION is another option. A gender neutral team, (female and male mediator) assists the couple together. For more information about co-mediation please visit this website as well as www.ctmediationcenter.com.
3. Collaborative Divorce Process. An excellent process to get a divorce, Collaborative Law is especially good for complex cases in medium to long-term marriages. The parties meet face-to-face in a series of meetings with their own collaboratively-trained attorneys. The collaborative attorney is a family and divorce specialist, has mediation training, collaboration training and must be accepted by his peers in a collaborative group. The attorneys advocate for their own clients, but remain open to the views and interests of the other spouse. Sometimes a neutral facilitator, or communication or child coach attends the meetings, only if needed to ensure that emotions don’t disrupt the process. The parties and their counsel sign an agreement that says they will not litigate (with these lawyers). This keeps the threat of litigation out of the process. The parties usually are able to resolve their case expeditiously and more cost effective. Pros: You and your spouse remain in control. No trips to the court, all negotiations are private and occur in your attorney’s offices. You have the added protection and legal advice at the table who provides ongoing advice, negotiation, counseling and protection. More expensive than mediation, however, far less than litigated cases. Cons: May not work if financial, emotional or psychological abuse exists, however, you can use neutral financial or communication coaches in session to mediate such issues. If you do not reach an agreement you will have to hire experts to proceed to Litigation and Trial, however those instances are not common as most cases settle without litigation. For more information and a detailed Question and Answer page, please read more on this website.
4. Litigation Ending with Settlement. Litigation occurs when there is a filing, many subsequent court hearings, and decisions are made by the Court. There is formal discovery (depositions, production of documents, interrogatories). The process is expensive. There is generally some negotiation by the parties through their attorneys. Sometimes the case is resolved at the “pretrial conference” date if a separation agreement is signed at that time. If the case proceeds to trial, much additional legal expense results, but a high proportion of those cases end by settlement on the first day of trial. This is a very expensive way to get a divorce. Ask an attorney to give you a ballpark figure. Unless you have lots of money to spend on this, try to use one of the methods previously described. Litigation ruins the relationship between you and your spouse forever (because you have gone “to war”) and may affect your children detrimentally in their lives and in their marriages. Think carefully before deciding to litigate. Pros: If your spouse is unfit or harmful to you or your child(ren) your attorney will go to bat for you. Cons: You are in for an ugly battle. The results are never guaranteed. Highly likely that ill will result. This will make it hard or impossible to parent or co-parent post-trial or post litigation. Winning is a matter of degree. Some say that no one wins with divorce litigation.
5. Litigation Ending with a Trial. This is the worst of all possible worlds. It is like litigation, however, with no settlement at the end. There is a trial and the judge decides all the issues of the divorce. An actual trial adds a huge expense on the divorce bill and creates a lifetime of bad memories. The parties are not in control over their own destiny, but have put the decision in the hands of a judge, whose decision may be unreasonable (however, not usually the case). The judge may also take the middle road leaving neither party satisfied (often the case). Or the result can be “all or nothing” in favor of one spouse, which will leave one party happy and the other party devastated. Pros: If your spouse is unfit or harmful to you or your child(ren) this may be your only option. Your attorney will go to bat for you. Cons: Winning is a matter of degree. Some say that no one wins with divorce litigation. Very costly, so much so that in some situations it can be financially ruinous.
When you are embarking on a divorce, discuss the possible methods of proceeding with your attorney, and choose the one that best fits your situation and will go towards achieving other goals in the divorce such as, perhaps maintaining peace and cordiality with your future ex-spouse (if possible).
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